30 Day Journal

A 30-day exploratory exercise designed to develop your skill as a confident leader.


  • Understand what blocks you from getting the most out of your team
  • Learn how to uncover and discover those limits that kills your ability to engage and connect with your team
  • Learn the Golden Key of Leadership 
  • Learn the #1 secret that top leaders know in How to be the Real Deal
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  • Gain clarity into the psyche of how human beings function and how to be able to draw the most out of them
  • Get the most from your team with ease
  • Be the best of what you do without having to be something you are not
  • Eliminate your team’s unrealistic expectations of you


By taking the time to delve into your 30 days of journaling, you are tapping into the top leaders #1 secret.  

Your journal is the real deal toward becoming the best Leader you can be!

This journaling exercise begins the process of your learning and engaging with the top leaders #1 secret

What is the #1 secret?

How you relate to yourself directly creates and impacts your leadership.  

How you relate to yourself = Your relationship with you.  It’s how you think, view and feel about yourself.  

Through these 30 days you will be diving into the truth of who you are, how you are perceived as a Leader and whether people will follow you or not.  

Journaling allows you to look from within so that you can become the “best you can be” and allows you to ultimately create a connected relationship with your team.  You do this because you need to know who you are as a leader. To change your leadership style to be the “Real Deal” while gaining the results you want.  Doing this in a natural way that doesn’t alienate your people but, instead, has them wanting to follow you.  

How do you do this?  Journaling happens to be one of the best ways to gain insight into your relationship with yourself.  This self-reflection gives way to the uncovering and discovering of what is needed while giving you a road map to tangibly apply what you have learned about yourself.  

Enjoy the process and embrace it fully to achieve maximum productivity.  

The best way to utilize this journal is to set aside 10-15 minutes every morning, before you start your day, to look at your journal.  Doing this will allow you to be thinking of your journal question throughout your leadership day giving you further insight and breakthrough.  Make sure to be honest with yourself.  No one but you is going to see this so you may as well use this as a “Real Deal.” 

Day 1

Who do you value as a Leader?

What do you value the most in them?

What are the main attributes that you value in them?

Day 2

What are your values in life?
What are your values in business?

List your top 3 values

How are you utilizing these values with your team today? 

Day 3

What happens when your team doesn't honor or respect your values?

Does your team even know what your values as a Leader are?  How do you know?

Day 4

Being the "Real Deal" as a Leader means you are authentic.

Do you know what that really means to be the completely authentic “Real Deal”?  

What does being authentic mean to you?

What does being authentic mean to your team?

Day 5

Based on your definition of a Real Deal Leader from yesterday, think of a time when your team was being authentic.

 How did you know it as a Leader?

List three things.

Day 6

Think of a time when your team was not being authentic.

Now that you know what a Real Deal Leader is looking for from their team, how did you know?

List three things.

Day 7

List the feelings you experience when your team isn't being authentic.

List as many feelings as you can and discuss why you feel this way.

Day 8

How did you feel when your team was authentic?

What did you notice from those feelings?  

List as many feelings as you can and why?

Day 9

Most of the time we want to write facts about our leadership but facts do not create a connection.

Write about you as a third person, Talking about you and your leadership style, essence, and personality.

Day 10

Knowing who you are comes from your past. “It’s the story of you.”

It is those experiences and events in your own life from the past that has made you the Leader you are today. 

What three events in your past can you list right now?

Take time to elaborate on all three. Write about you in the third person talking about the experiences that have led you to be the Leader you are today.

Day 11

Knowing who you are also comes from your own present. “It’s the story of you.”

It is those experiences and events in your own present life as a Leader.

What three events of your own present can you list as a Leader?

Elaborate on all three. 

Day 12

“Your Story.” Rewrite your story from day nine to day eleven. What makes you who you are as a Leader?

This time do not write as a third person. See how the story shifts. Notice how the writing will change the feeling of your story. It should now have more meaning for you.

Day 13

Now see the ugly truths that have come across in your story.

It is those experiences and events in your own present life as a Leader.

What three events of your own present can you list as a Leader?

Elaborate on all three. 

Day 14

List the positive things in your story and how you feel about them as a Leader.

List them and how you feel about them.

Day 15

Rewrite your story and include your new feelings and discoveries as a Leader.

Day 16

Reread yesterday's story.

How does the story make you feel?

What comes up for you?

Anything Negative, Positive or both?

Write down your feelings and insights to your story.

If your team were reading or listening to your story, how would they feel? Would they connect to your story?

Take time to write this in your journal today

Day 17

How do you connect with your team?

List three things about this connection.

Write about the three ways you connect.

Day 18 (Zoom)

With the new way in which teams function after Covid, Zoom has become one of the main ways in which leaders are communicating and connecting with their teams.

While on a Zoom call, what would you change for a better personal connection with your team.

List three things.

Day 19 (Zoom)

While on a Zoom call, what would you change, in order to keep your team’s attention.

List three things.

Day 20

During in person meetings, what would you change for a better personal connection with your team.

List three things.

Day 21

During in person meetings, what would you change, in order to keep your team’s attention

List three things.

Day 22

“Cool Down for Leaders”

There is a cool down exercise that relaxes our endorphins. It is similar to the time after working out or after doing Yoga. It is the same for the brain. It lets us clear our minds, learn to relax and take some time to do so:

This video by….. is a meditation link for this exercise. You can do this when you are sitting at your desk or office chair, or have found a quiet space where you can feel safe and can let yourself relax without interruption.

After watching or listening to the video: Write down what you learned about yourself and how it made you feel. 

The first linkYouTube video “How to Meditate” by:  is especially designed for people that have never meditated before. The second “Mental Rest” also by: YouTube video can be used for this daily exercise.

Day 23

List your power time.

Is it am. or pm.?

This will guide you to know what time you will be the most productive and when you can “Cool Down.” 

Now, list why those times are the most important to you and your team and why.

Day 24

It’s a Benchmark not a goal:

There can be disappointment if our teams and leaders just focus on goals and then, they are not reached. To avoid this, Leaders should replace goals with Benchmarks.

Benchmarks do not cause disappointment.  Instead, benchmarks allow your team to achieve the next step towards your goals.  So, if you do not achieve this week’s benchmark, it’s okay. Just make it your next week’s benchmark. Remember, it’s a benchmark, not a goal that you have to complete by a certain time or day.  

What do you see is the difference between a goal and a benchmark?  How can this support you and your team to effectively reach the results you have set? 

Day 25

Which benchmark have you set for yourself?

 What time of the day will you work on your benchmark? How much time will you allow yourself to work on this benchmark? And Why?

Day 26

Now Note the weeks you will complete each benchmark.

If you do not achieve that week’s benchmark , it’s okay. Just put it into your next week’s benchmark. Remember, it’s a benchmark not a goal that you have to complete by a certain time or day.

Day 27

“Cool Down Time.”

Go back to your meditation video link that is provided for you. 

Reflect on all that you have done for benchmarking and journaling.

How far have you gone in your process of becoming a “Real Deal Leader” with what you have chosen to work on in your leadership journal?

Day 28

Acceptance-as of today for leadership.

What have you accepted about yourself and your team and why? 

List three things.

Day 29

For you as a Leader,: if it feels like there is a shift that still needs to play out or move, how would you improve on that and why?

List three things

Day 30

Welcome to your 30th day! You made it!!! So, Now what?

What will you do with everything you now know?

How will you be a “Real Deal Leader” standing for everything you have learned in the last 30 days.  As you know, it takes implementation.  

So, what is your story now and how are you going to use this to uplevel yourself and be the Real Deal every day?

Are You Ready To Make Your Mark On Leadership And Truly Be "The Real Deal"?

If you said “YES” then I know that my “30 Day Journal for Leaders becoming the “Real Deal.” has provided you with a clear insight on what to do with your leadership. Now that you know that your story is a key to success and a way for your team to relate to you, your story will move you forward. It will Allow you to see that others are not judging you. Instead, you are now free of the judgment of others. You are now able to express your true emotions and not just what you think your team should only see and hear.

My hope is that you enjoyed these last 30 days. I know how much work it took. It is not easy to look inside yourself in order to learn your own truthful story and then be able to share it with the world and your team without regret or shame. The process will allow you to engage your team during your opening presentation. It allows you and your team to see your story as a strength as it relates to your team.

I invite you to go to the next step with me. Join me in a complimentary call. During this call,  we will explore the next steps you need to take to become a “Real Deal Leader”.